Matthew 19:3-6 Some Pharisees came to [Jesus] to test him. They asked, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any and every reason?” “Haven’t your read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’ and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate” (NIV).
In this passage from Matthew, Jesus quotes from the book of Genesis. Marriage was God’s plan in the beginning! Marriage has been carried out in most cultures throughout history. Jesus ordained marriage!
But marriage has been frequently degraded at various times throughout history, and marriage is being rapidly degraded in my country, the United States, now. Just in my lifetime, marriage is less common and more frequently ignored. And tragically, in some Christian communities in my country, ministers are teaching it is fine to engage in sexual intercourse outside of marriage. They reject the teaching of Jesus as recorded here in Matthew 19.
In my opinion, the disagreement between various Christian communities regarding whether sexual intercourse is moral only within marriage, or not, has been the most divisive issue since the fiery dispute regarding the immorality or morality of slavery, which resulted in the Civil War.
Yet marriage between a man and a woman is good! Now marriage is not a requirement. Singleness being chaste is an option. Personally I have accomplished much ministry work which probably would not have been possible or best had I been married. Yet I still have the dream of being married. And marriage is an opportunity for many.
Yet for continued happiness, a marriage needs both partners to live by the love of Jesus. Why? Because Jesus’ true love is needed by everyone, single or married. His true love was manifested in that Jesus died on a cross for the forgiveness of sins of anyone. Jesus was the atoning sacrifice for the consequence of sins, which is spiritual death. If you believe in Jesus, you will have eternal life with Him. And you will be changed throughout your life to be more and more loving. Enabled by Jesus, you can even be more and more loving to a spouse, if you gain one.
Hunter